Or can even ask the girl if she knows what her love languages are, and if not you can explain it to her. Once you know her strongest forms of receiving affection, then simply start showing affection the way she wants. But make sure not to overdo it too soon.
Remember, if you can create a story for her, get her to start imagining a future with you, make fun memories, spark romantic feelings, and show affection the way she wants, feelings of love will be right around the corner. So, to help you out, Matt created a free conversation cheat sheet.
And if you want us to show you how to meet women personally, click here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call. Several articles tell guys that women often usually? Girl can be hard to talk to but in the real sense their brains can to twisted soo easily.
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Girl can be hard to talk to but in the real sense their brains can to twisted soo easily Reply. Leave a Reply Want to join the discussion? July 22, at am. Joy says:. July 22, at pm. July 25, at pm. July 27, at am. Rob says:. July 31, at am. MissZindzi says:. July 31, at pm. Chicano Rap says:. August 20, at pm. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. Share Tweet Share Pin. In The Tweets My Tweets. In this case you needed a clarifying text to know exactly when she's free the next day, since she only said she could do "tomorrow for drinks.
Important note: when a girl tells you when she's free, you should almost always try to schedule the date right near the beginning of that time. This gives you the maximum amount of time you can get with her. Sometimes she might schedule something after your date with her, and will leave early.
But often she won't schedule anything later than your date. If you meet her at PM, you may only have an hour with her before she has to leave to get ready for bed. If you pick 7 PM with the same girl though, you get 3. That's a lot more time with her to make beautiful things happen.
Which date and time you've chosen from the windows she's given you in the case above, "Let's do 7 PM then", after having previously asked about her free time tomorrow -- so it's "7 PM tomorrow". Here's another example, in response to her response to a Same Day Date Text :.
That's the Single Text Proposal. You'll use it for most scenarios where you know from your scheduling text what times she can meet. But what do you do when she gives you a general availability window, and you don't know exactly what time she can meet?
When you ask her for her schedule yet you don't get exact to-the-hour availability, you'll need to use a Multi-Text Proposal. This splits your proposal up into two texts; namely:. Here's an example in response to a Same Day Date Text where she doesn't give you the exact time she can meet:.
Since she gave you a general window, but not a specific time, you propose the time first. In this case, you said "Let's say 6 o'clock? Or do you need later. Some really cool places in easy walking distance from there". You need to break the proposal up into multiple texts because she may not be available the time you propose. If you send a big text proposing a time, meet location, and activity and she has to push back on the time, she may feel like she's pushing back on the entire proposal.
Instead, you split it up. You float a time "6 o'clock" , and give her the option to do later "or do you need later". Minor note: note there is only one question mark in the time-proposal text. That's by design; use too many question marks and you can make a text feel needy.
One question mark is all you need here -- it does the trick just fine. Here's another example, this in response to a girl pinging back after a Ball In Your Court Text which we'll talk about later in this guide :. She tells you she's wide open a very good sign!
Because she's so eager to see you, you decide to see if she'll come straight to your place So you ask if you'll be doing drinks in a bar or hanging out implied to be at your place.
So you propose the activity "a cool little bar with a really neat atmosphere" and the meet location "7th and Broadway and walk from there" , the second part of your Multi-Text Proposal.
Had you tried to do it all in one text, and told her in response to her "Let's meet up! There's another advantage to stretching the proposal out across several texts like this, too, especially with a girl who's been flakey like a Ball In Your Court girl typically will have been : as she responds to more of your texts and works to set the date up, she invests more into the date and commits herself more to it happening.
Simply by splitting your proposal up like this, you make her less likely to flake on the date , and more likely to show up. Once she's accepted your proposal, proceed to Text Confirmation Text. When you get a no, you must handle it as coolly and calmly as possible to keep things alive so you can take another shot with her later. This can also happen later on into the process though usually only if you make a mistake. You might be in the midst of a Multi-Text Proposal Text when she withdraws her date availability Your aim is to come across as if you have a hundred other women you can easily meet, though you still like and value her.
Coming across cool and calm enough will not only preserve your options with her for later, but it'll usually make you look pretty darn good too. Lots of guys flip out, get needy, grow bitter, or, alternately, act like doormats here. Basic No Worries Text , for when she doesn't give you much.
Counteroffer No Worries Text , for when you think a counteroffer might work. Considerate No Worries Text , for when you sense she definitely likes you and does want to meet but is too genuinely busy, so you want to give her a little consideration before you close out this round of texting. The "we'll connect later" part, where you let her know you'll talk with her another time so she doesn't mentally close the book on you.
You let her know it's not a big deal for you If you feel like she hasn't totally shut the door on you with her date decline, and it seems like the decline is limited only to a certain period of time, sometimes it's worth checking her schedule again then and there.
In this case, you'll tell her "no worries" about the time she's declined -- then ask her immediately about another. Like this:. Because she's so positive in her response laughter, exclamation points, generally a good vibe and because her lack of availability is limited only to weeknights this week , it makes sense to take a stab at the next logical windows: the weekend and next week.
You won't use this one a huge amount, but for situations where she's a little bubblier with you and her lack of availability is constrained, the Counteroffer No Worries Text can sometimes produce results.
This version of the No Worries Text works similarly to the last text the Counteroffer No Worries Text , in that you commiserate with a girl who's being genuine with you in her decline text.
However, you don't counteroffer here often because she's busy and you don't want to cause stress right now -- you'll talk to her a little later anyway, once she's under less pressure. Since she gives you such a long explanation, and is clearly under a lot of pressure, the best thing here is just to show her you get it, and reassure her it's not a big deal and you'll connect with her after the pressure is off her.
You should go radio silent and not message her until you're ready to check her schedule for another date. This is for one clear, specific reason: you want her to know the only way she can enjoy your presence and attractive qualities is if she comes to meet you in person.
If you did a good job with her while you were in-person with her i. If you didn't make a good first impression, you will not solve that with photos or texts. Attraction is primarily based on what she feels while interacting with you in the moment you express it to her and she expresses it to you, not what she feels from reading words or looking at pictures you send her. If you feel like you didn't make a good enough impression with her in-person to get her to meet up, call her.
Phone calls allow you to convey so many more attractive qualities than text it's almost unbelievable. In-person is best, but since you can't magically appear right next to her and it'd be kind of creepy if you did , but you can magically make the device in her purse vibrate with your aural salutations, it's the next best thing. I know, I know A lot of guys on our discussion forum have said that too -- but once they started calling girls, they discovered it was so much fun, girls were impressed because nobody does it anymore, and they started lining up dates with women they thought they'd lost over text.
Give calling girls on the phone a try -- it really does work wonders, and can resurrect dead courtships. You'll send this four to seven days after your last No Worries Text, unless there's some reason to text sooner like she asked you to check in with her sooner or later like she's going on a trip for three weeks.
The Scheduler II Text looks exactly like a Standard Scheduler Text -- you're just sending it half a week to a week after your last round of schedule checking, is all. Consideration: "Hope the week's gone awesome and the gym's been kind to you :D". New information: "I had a friend in town to visit - good times, awesome friend".
The "Anyway getting back to texting you now! You don't have to have a linkage like this, but sometimes it makes the text work better by giving a little rationale for why you're texting her now.
Consideration: "how'd all those presentations and the do-over do last week - you finish them all up? New information: "I have a trip coming up in the next few days to warm and tropical locales!
Also like the last example, this Scheduler II Text contains a rationale linkage between the New Information bit and the Schedule-Check bit linkage: "but I hoped to connect with you before I left".
Now here's an example that bends the rules a bit and leaves out one of the Standard Scheduler parts:. In this case, because there's so little message content before and because the girl has not been very chatty herself, you leave out the new information about you -- you're not sure she cares about you much yet, and you don't want to blast her with too long a text. Usually you will not want to do this.
You usually want all four parts of the scheduler text there. However, sometimes it can make sense to bend the rules If she's declined two dates in a row from you, you'll still follow the same steps as with the Scheduler II Text.
If you feel she isn't comfortable with you or interested enough yet, do call her on the phone. It is far, far easier and more effective to get women comfortable with and interested in you over the phone than it is by sending them lines of text.
The phone is your best bet for rekindling things with a woman it's died out with or one it never got going in the first place with. You can go right into another scheduler text if she declines your previous attempt but leaves a potential window open:.
Usually though your third scheduler text will be a more Standard Scheduler -style text, with the four scheduler parts. One difference with many Scheduler III Texts is you will often want to change the sort of date you offer.
It also gives her a different activity to latch onto and do with you, in case the activity itself was the thing she was objecting to previously. New information: "I'm back in town, should be here for a while.
Only so much warmth you can take! We can plan something fun to bounce back from all that busyness This message is pretty long, but it's necessary here. It's okay because the dialogue with the girl was good in prior messages.
Also it's been eight days since the last message, and you need to bring her up to speed on what's been going on with you the trip , let her know you're back for a while, then check her schedule and pitch a date idea with options.
Easy backup options are crucial to how you text girls, because not every girl will go for the fun, exciting dates, even if they've previously turned down the more relaxed dates. Giving her the choice lets her choose either the exciting option or the relaxed one, which raises the odds she says yes.
If she's turned you down on three consecutive date requests, it may be time to throw the ball in her court. That works like so:. Women who won't agree to dates with you over text often will over the phone -- so if you really want to get this girl out with you, make sure you try this method if you need it. For now, we'll assume you tried that and it still did not work, or you didn't want to bother with calls because they're not convenient for you or you're not into this girl enough to want to bother to talk to her on the phone.
The third rule is very important. Because if you do this right, many girls about half, in my and some other veteran guys' experience will contact you again on their own. Usually it takes them a good two to three weeks to do this however.
The other half who don't contact you you will not hear from again -- so there is a fair bit of gambling with this tactic. Provided you don't mind losing a girl it doesn't seem to be going anywhere with though, Ball In Your Court is perfect. Ball In Your Court shifts the burden of contacting you onto the girl. It tells her exactly what to do for when she feels like reconnecting with you.
Then it frees you of worrying about her until she's ready -- so you can go meet other more available women. Ball in court: when her schedule clears up, she should contact you to let you know when she's ready to meet. And I'm not very good at the whole 'chase someone around and keep bugging her' thing! Ball in court: "So why don't we do this: you take care of your busy stuff, and once it's cleared up and you have a little time, shoot me a message to let me know when you're free and we'll plan something out".
After that, you simply don't respond to her again until she contacts you to tell you she's available to meet. In this case, she does that 17 days later. However, she leaves it unclear whether she can make those dates or not. So you send her a Ball In Court Text that tells her to get in touch with you if it turns out she will be able to make that weekend. Ball in court: "I'll leave it up to you.
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